Escaping The Complaint Trap

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If we’re honest, some days are just poopy. Some days we don’t feel thankful and we have plenty of things we can righteously feel upset, disappointed, or anxious about.

The Lord doesn’t condemn that. God expresses feelings, too.

But we’re not as perfect in having and expressing those emotions.

In trusting, loving relationships, it’s easy to get caught in the complaint trap. When you and your husband both know what’s up and have detail after detail to share about the garbage the day tossed your way, it’s easy to get caught up in a vent session.

If a friend calls to share about that thing she’s been struggling with and every turn of events she mentions warrants an “ouch. Really??” sympathy isn’t hard to muster up.

No need to knock it or deny it. There’s a place for venting, for crying out, for feeling alongside others –in fact there’s a word for that: compassion. It’s even in the Bible!

But God’s permitting of experiencing rough days and sharing our feelings and needs with others doesn’t negate this command: “In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.” -1 Thessalonians 5:18.

There are others like it, all getting at the same idea: God is always worthy of praise and gratitude. All the time. In all things.

It helps to remind each other of that, even amidst a vent session. In doing so, we keep each other from stumbling over complaints that, while valid and present, don’t need to block the path or our view of God.

Tonight I’m thankful that guy I’ve been blessed with listens, understands, and gets upset with me at some unfair stuff…and then plays me this song and sings along:

Linking up with:  Woman to Woman WednesdayWomen with Intention, TellHisStory, and DancewithJesus


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